WHY I'M GRATEFUL FOR GETTING MARRIED YOUNG

Nowadays, society loves to tell people what they're too young for. 
Too young to do this. Too young to do that. Too young to get married. Too young to be parents.
Most people view being young as going hand in hand with not being mature. 

While that might be true in some cases, a lot of times it is not. In my case, it is not.

What people don't understand is that maturity is developed through life experience, not by age. What we go through shapes how we view things and our mind set. While we tend to gain more life experience as we age, sometimes it doesn't quite work like that. 

I married Ryan, my high school sweetheart, in July 2014 at the age of 19. And yes, I know that's young. I've gotten the surprised "Wow you're married?", "How old are you?", "You're so young!" comments countless times.

But just because my husband and I are in a young marriage, does not mean that we are doomed to fail. It doesn't mean that we can't establish a loving, mature relationship that will hold strong and last until we are gray haired and weathered. 

Sure, we have certain challenges that older couples might not have. But, I also feel like we have certain advantages in our marriage that older couples don't. Looking back over the (almost) two years I've been married, I am so grateful that I didn't wait to get married until the age that society deems "appropriate," and I wanted to write this post to tell you a few reasons why.



1. We support each other through school.

We got married right after our Freshman year of college, so we've gotten to be there for each other for all the 50000 page essays, important exams, and late study nights that encompass the life of a college student. That support system has meant the world. I've always had the perfect study partner. We motivate each other, and push each other to do our best in academics. With a little one relying on us, school is so important, and that pressure can be stressful. It's nice to be able to go through it with your best friend at your side.

2. We get to share more milestones.

There are so many important things going on in life between the ages of 18 through your early twenties. Getting accepted and going into college is a milestone, as is graduating, getting a career, buying your first house, etc. Instead of planning our future and tackling our dreams separately, we're doing it together. We're looking forward to those milestones still to come, while getting to celebrate those we've accomplished so far. 

3. Moving in together wasn't a complicated process.

Since we are young and still in college, we didn't really have our lives and independent routines set in stone yet. It wasn't a hard process to more in and mold our lives together. 

4. We have both learned so many valuable lessons.

We've learned to compromise, communicate more effectively, have more patience, listen better, put another before ourself, and so much more. Marriage in general teaches people so much, but young marriage really takes it to a whole different level.

5. We're more financially responsible at a young age. 

Since we moved in together and have a toddler, we have taken on so many adult responsibilities, the most important of which being financial responsibility. This one was a bit tough for me because your girl likes to shop, but I have learned a lot and come a long way, and now we are both using money responsibly and planning towards our financial future. 

6. We get to spend more day to day time together.

Even though we are both still really busy with working, school, and a little girl, being married whilst still in college allows us to spend more time together than we will be able to when we both have full time careers.

7. We appreciate our date nights more. 

Like I said before, we don't have careers yet since we're still in school. With rent, bills, groceries, a toddler, etc., we don't have too much spare money to spend on going out together. So, when we do get to go out and spend one on one time together, it makes it that much more special and memorable, and we appreciate it infinitely more. 

8. We're growing up together.

Even though we're now 21, we still have a lot of growing up to do just like we did at 19. The amazing thing is though that we get to grow up and further mature together. We learn from each other and discover new things about ourselves all the time. It's pretty awesome to watch one another grow. I look at old pictures of Ryan and I still in high school, and appreciate how far we have come and what we have accomplished.

9. We get to spend more of our lives together.

One of the biggest perks, and one of the main reasons that I am grateful for getting married young, is the fact that we get to spend more of our lives together. I am glad we didn't wait around for years deciding if marriage was something we were truly ready for. We took a leap, and now we get to celebrate more years as a family, which I think is wonderful. 



Whether you choose to get married at 19 or at 35, marriage will always be a big decision that takes a lot of commitment and work. It's definitely not easy at any age. Get married when you feel you are ready. All I'm saying is, don't let societal norms affect something that you in your heart believe you are ready for. Do what makes you happy, and make the right decision for yourself. Young marriages CAN work, you just need a lot of love and a will to never give up on each other.



I hope you enjoyed this post, stay tuned for more posts soon! 


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33 comments

  1. I love it and you make such great points. I'm happy proud of you guys success. Life experiences is how ones mature, I totally agree with great. Great job to the both of you. ����

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a nice comment. I hope you are doing well (: xx

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  2. This is such a cute and lovely post! I love the wedding photo of you both. It sounds like you're creating the perfect lives for yourself xx

    Claire x Grab your camera

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    1. You're too sweet, thank you! Our lives aren't perfect, but we are making them the best we can (: xx

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  3. I got married at 22 and although my husband is 5 years older than me, your points thoroughly resonate with me! We have grown up together, been extremely financially responsible and after 4 years married we now have started a family, and it just gets better and better each year and we still have the rest of our lives together which is exciting! What a beautiful post X
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  4. I was 19 and my husband 23 when we got married. It has been a blessing. We are a very tight nit family and would rather spend time together than apart. Even tonight he took our teenagers somewhere and was upset that we barely saw each other, even after 21 years. Getting married young has been a blessing and something we've recommended to our children.

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    1. Samantha, that's wonderful! I hope my marriage is like that in 21 years. I'm glad you enjoyed the post and found it relatable! xx

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  5. Loving your post.... As many comments before me I too married young. I was 18 and my husband was 22, I got pregnant 2 months after our marriage of course, it was not plan but God blessed us with this beautiful gift to keep us focus in building our family strong. People will always comment and judged but when love is strong nothing or nobody can break it. Great post!!!!

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    1. Iveth, thank you! Your family sounds like a true blessing. xx

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  6. The first paragraph is so true. Age is not directly proportional to maturity. You might be 60 and lack the maturity of an 18 year old. I am glad you absolutely love your married life and I wish you the best of luck for the future. Hope to see another post like this in 50 years. ;)

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    1. I'm glad you agree! And thank you so much, I hope that I will have the drive to keep this blog going for 50 years haha (:

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  7. I love this post! You go girl! I got married two days after my 18th birthday. No regrets <3

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  8. This post is so well written and you sound so wise! This is the first post I am reading from you and I am excited to read more!

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    1. Thank you!! That means a lot (: Glad you enjoyed!

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  9. Absolutely love this! Me and my partner are 20 and have been speaking about becoming parents soon. We've been told countless times that we're too young. But we are so so SO mature, especially compared to other 20 year olds. We've also been together 4 years and are extremely capable of looking after a child, we pay our own bills, have jobs, feed ourselves, everything. Why the hell couldn't we have a child!
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    1. Caitlin, I am sure you are beyond capable of having a child! It's a big step, but it's you and your partner's choice, and you should do what makes you happy. I'm so glad you enjoyed my post (: xx

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  10. This is such a lovely post about getting married young & I totally understand so much of it. I also married young at 19 and 8 years later we are stronger than ever together and more in love than ever

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    1. Crystal, it is so inspiring to hear about couples who are still going strong after getting married at the same age as my husband and I. I am so happy for you! Thank you for taking the time to tell me that you enjoyed the post, it means a lot (: xx

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  11. Lovely post! There is nothing wrong with being married young! Happy (almost) anniversary to you and your husband.

    - Cait | http://www.prettyandfun.com

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    1. Thank you so much Elise! We just celebrated it on the first (:

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  12. What a beautiful post! I married my husband in 2013 at 22 and people thought that that was young. As they say, "Age is just a number" and if you are ready for marriage, I say go for it! Marrying my husband was the best decision ever and I am so happy that we are able to grow together and make the memories that we do.
    I am happy that you have found your love so soon in life :)
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    1. Thanks Charlotte, I'm so glad you enjoyed my post (: and thanks for sharing your story, I'm so glad that you and your husband are happy!

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  13. I married my husband when I was 19...we just celebrated 21 years of marriage. Our daughter got married at 18. I agree with everything you posted here. I am so glad we married young.

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    1. That's amazing Renee! Glad you enjoyed the post! xx

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  14. I love the part about the two of you growing up together. That has to be something that must be so nice. To be able to learn and experience the world side by side like two partners in crime sounds ideal to me!

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    1. It really is wonderful! Glad you enjoyed the post, thanks for commenting! xx

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  15. Aw love this!! As long as you are happy, it shouldn't matter what anybody else thinks :)

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    1. Carolyn, I agree completely. Glad you enjoyed the post, thanks for commenting. (: xx

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  16. You're a happy woman! Loved this post.

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  17. I got married young, too, so I really love & relate to this post! I think getting married young and growing up together is such a beautiful thing!
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